A Year of Questions: How to slow down and fall in love with life

Could this be your year of questions?

 

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Watching too much trashy television, trying to find something decent to eat in a motorway service station, feeling awkward at dinner parties, putting off the hoovering… is this what life is all about?

These everyday ordinary things happen to us all. This book helps us to discover what we can learn from them. It encourages us to wonder why we hate our boss, and why we keep spending too much money. It invites us to look at the ball of string between our ears and start to untangle it. It nudges us into slowing down, paying more attention, waking up.

As well as the hoovering, life is also about seeing a vase of yellow tulips lit up from behind, making creamy potatoes au gratin for your family, sitting by the sea and watching the waves twinkle. ‘A Year of Questions’ will help you to fall in love with your life all over again.

Published by Lulu.com in August 2007 * Available from Amazon at £9.49 / $21.50 * ISBN 978-1847999733 * 172 pages

 


Extract:  WEEK 8 - A window, a space 

This week, work has been very stressful.  Today I made soup. 

I gathered the vegetables together in the kitchen – ordinary vegetables - carrots, potatoes, onions, leeks.  I rubbed dark crumbly earth from the potatoes with my fingers.  I fried the onions, letting clouds of their caramel aroma into the room.  I sliced the squeaky leeks.  I noticed the brilliant orange of the carrots.  I boiled the water and listened to it plobbing and ribupping.

As I moved around the kitchen I felt a kind of release.  I reflected on my work, and untangled some knots.  I made a couple of little decisions that will make a big difference.  I said some kind words to myself.   

I often return to this creative space, whether I'm making soup or cards or novels.  It gives me an opportunity to become absorbed in an attempt at beauty.  It gives me a chance to step out of being 'someone in relation to someone else' - a partner, a daughter, a therapist.  I get to be me, pure and simple.

Things you might be curious about

How often do you give yourself the space to keep track of yourself?  How committed are you to making this space?  What gets in the way? 

Suggestions for this week

Make a date with yourself this week to find out about a new creative pursuit or revisit an old one.  Find an evening class in welding, buy a new sketch-pad, make a collage of the inside of a space-ship with your children, collect leaves in the park, get a Greek recipe book out of the library. 

We all need to have a creative outlet - a window, a space - so we don't lose track of ourselves.  Norman Fischer

When we let ourselves respond to poetry, to music, to pictures, we are clearing a space where new stories can root, in effect we are clearing a space for new stories about ourselves.  Jeanette Winterson


What people say:

Fiona Robyn's new book “A Year of Questions: how to slow down and fall in love with life”, promises to be a great read for those who appreciate a sympathetic companion on the road to intentional awareness.

I like Fiona's honesty, and she starts her book the way I wish all books started, with a clear outline of what to expect from, and how best to use, the book. She wonders aloud about her reader, and through this wondering I felt included. What a thing to be included right from the start of a book. She gives her credentials, and answers the “why should you listen to me” question. Have you ever wondered, “Is this author's advice coming from an academic understanding, personal experience, or both?” Fiona tells you right from the start. Like a good writer should, she has ingested whole years of words, ideas, observations, and poetic turns of phrase, from countless books, and synthesised it all into accessible prose, studded with observations from her daily life. The beauty of literature married to the experiential.

Each selection starts with an anecdote or experience from Fiona's life, followed by some questions and a suggestion for the week, and a couple of choice quotes. The questions are not the sorts that have yes or no answers, they are the kind that make you look into space while your inner eye probes the neural web of your heart, coaxing out answers that you want to find. There are themes that run through the book such as simplicity, the importance of reflective thinking, and making friends with the difficult bits of you.

As part of the age-old and newly discovered wisdom of adequacy, Fiona appears to believe that her reader has the answers to the questions she put forth. Think how nice it would be to spend a year with a fellow traveller like that!

Richard Powell from www.stillinthestream.com

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Fiona’s book is full of realizations that seem to come from within me and not from her. Fiona is a therapist, and her book is good therapy. Fiona’s writing is at once grounded, imaginative, humorous, gentle, and gracious. She’s never above her reader. She’s open about her own struggles, but she’s never self-deprecating. Even her acknowledgements are a work of art and examples of real gratitude. Her book’s presentation and writing style is as peaceful and joyous as its content.

Peter Stephens of slow reads

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I eagerly awaited arrival of my copy of Fiona's book - and I was not disappointed. I have been a subscriber to Fiona's newsletter for some time and value her clear and thought-provoking style of writing.

I am dipping into her book whenever I have a moment for reflection, and I will be buying a copy for my niece in New Zealand for Christmas.

Thank you Fiona! 

Mary Lunnen, Dare to Blossom  

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A few days ago I bought Fiona's book, A Year of Questions. I've been dipping into it regularly over the past few days, and I'm really enjoying it.

Fiona writes humorously, and authoritatively, with a personal touch.

I thoroughly recommend it.

Andy Fryer of www.jafflemcsnaffle.blogspot.com


meAuthor biography

Fiona Robyn is a writer and blogger living in Hampshire with her partner, cats and vegetable patch. 

Her three debut novels will be published by Snowbooks - The Letters in March 2009, The Blue Handbag in August 2009 and Thaw in February 2010.  Her other books include A Year of Questions: How to slow down and fall in love with life and ‘small stones: a year of moments’. 

Her daily blog is at a small stone and her blog about being a writer is at Planting Words.  Her main site is at www.fionarobyn.com. She can be contacted at fiona@fionarobyn.com.  Join her mailing list by putting your email into the box below.

She is currently growing potatoes, learning Russian and investigating Zen thought.



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